Updated: Mar 22
Control your Monkey Mind with grace and detachment to control your outcomes in life.
Here’s a frustrating self-fulfilling prophecy: Feelings of self-doubt, stress, and negativity produce more of the same results that cause self-doubt, stress, and negativity. 😣 Yet knowing that doesn’t seem to help or can make it even worse as you realize, “I’m doing it again” causing more stress.
I’ve worked with many successful women (and talented women who could be) who still struggle with these issues. That’s because it can come from so many places: long-buried childhood messages or traumas, comparing yourself to peers or siblings, perfectionism, disrespectful job experiences, abusive adult relationships, and more. You may be under pressure as the person with all the answers at work while balancing family, and possibly health issues and/or aging parents. It also doesn’t help to know that you’re not alone.
Misery loves company but confiding in friends who feel the same way often perpetuates the cycle by “normalizing” it. People will say “yep, that’s just the way it is,” ...but it doesn’t have to be.
Please believe me when I say you can create the life you’re craving. When you can control your Monkey mind with grace and detachment you can control your outcomes in life.
I used to meditate a lot to negate these kinds of feelings. Meditation is helpful and practiced regularly can have lasting results, and it’s very easy to become distracted, start daydreaming, or just fall asleep. Not to mention the constant interruptions of your life (Mommy Johnny just stuck something up his nose again!).
The hypnotic state by contrast creates “a powerful combination of dissociation, immersion, and openness to a new non-judgmental immersive experience,” says Dr. David Spiegel, a Stanford University psychiatrist and leading researcher of hypnosis. Brain-imaging studies show that during hypnosis, activity in a brain region that helps people switch between tasks quiets down. This is how the brain is retrained. This same region seems to disconnect from another area responsible for self-reflection and daydreaming—which is why hypnotized people aren’t worried about who they are or what they’re doing. It's like a spa day for your mind, and who doesn't love a good spa day?
Not quite ready for hypnosis? Try the following tactics:
Schedule weekly “dates” with yourself allowing for a few hours of me time to journal, go for a long walk, take a bubble bath, or get a massage. Tap into all the things you do love about your life and immerse yourself in gratitude – and just unplug! (that last part is key. Put your phone away!)
Brain dump: List all the things that are causing you stress. Now see if there is anything you can eliminate, delegate, say no to, forgive, or ask for help with. If your list is long just choose 3 things and determine a reasonable timeline for dealing with them. Rinse and repeat!
Mirror work: Somewhere in your life, you picked up harmful beliefs such as “I’m not smart enough, worthy enough, or capable.” If left untreated, these harmful beliefs integrate with your mind and become the main driver of your everyday behavior. It sounds and feels silly, but mirror work is literally the practice of looking into your own eyes and repeating affirmations. Like hypnosis, it’s a form of rewiring the brain.
Emotional Freedom Technique: Tapping on a combination of acupuncture points and repeating positive statements restores balance and energy flow. Many people use EFT tapping to relieve everyday stress and anxiety, improve performance, and reduce food cravings. It’s also used clinically for more serious conditions like PTSD. Here are the acupuncture points and a guide to learn how to use it.
If you’ve tried some of these ideas or you just feel like you need guided help, we can address and reverse negative thought patterns with hypnosis to create a more positive and fulfilling life. And the best part? You don't have to do anything except sit back, relax, and I’ll be your guide to the part of you that knows all the answers. I want to be clear that I am not doing the work. The goal is for you to reclaim the happiness and ease you deserve. Hypnosis is like a massage for your brain, but without all the awkward small talk. We DO talk. I go through a full assessment first and make sure that we clarify the outcomes you want most.
I guide you into a brain state that takes you out of the chatty judging mind into a surrendered state where the subconscious is accessible and brings together the conflicting messages you have. From that place, you can negotiate and make decisions. We can identify and address limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones to change your thought patterns. I’ll also help you develop coping strategies to deal with negative emotions so that you’ll have more confidence in your ability to handle whatever life throws your way.
None of us want a life on repeat. It takes work and willingness, but I offer a clear, methodical process that can help you transform these negative feelings and circumstances. Imagine yourself…
Making decisions easily and feeling confident moving forward with them
Feeling worthy of all the things you already have and all that you desire most
Doing less, accomplishing more, and feeling fulfilled!
Knowing that whatever you put your mind to you can succeed in (and enjoy the journey!)
Taking risks without worrying that everything you’ve built thus far will fall apart
Knowing that everything will be okay no matter what – the Universe is on your side!
Experiencing more enthusiasm and vitality and just feeling good in your body
By becoming more in tune with your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, you can better understand what makes you happy and fulfilled and make choices that align with your values and goals. We all need a sense of purpose, and this work lays the foundation for keeping that front and center. This is not just a quick fix or a temporary fix. These new habits and thought patterns will keep you feeling joyful and stress-free long after I send you back into the real world!
I typically recommend a 3 or 6-session package for these kinds of issues and a reassessment at the end. Book a package today.